He not only survived; he thrived.

"The world is a fine place and worth the fighting for and I hate very much to leave it."

-Ernest Hemingway; For Whom the Bell Tolls

Hero; a person who consistently acts courageously and is noble of thought and character. He/she has acquired the honorable and self-sacrificing behaviors of beneficence, empathy, and fortitude by engaging and practicing these deeds regularly. They are part of one's personal infrastructure. Courageous thoughts and behaviors become instinctive, intrinsic to their everyday life guiding every decision and action. There may be natural born heroes but I think most achieve these special abilities and status by using crises, challenges, trials and errors to provoke and strengthen their ability to survive, overcome and grow. Senator John McCain did just that. Enduring incredible physical, emotional and spiritual pain and despair - he survived. Hero; a person who consistently acts courageously and is noble of thought and character. He/she has acquired the honorable and self-sacrificing behaviors of beneficence, empathy, and fortitude by engaging and practicing these deeds regularly. They are part of one's personal infrastructure. Courageous thoughts and behaviors become instinctive, intrinsic to their everyday life guiding every decision and action. There may be natural born heroes but I think most achieve these special abilities and status by using crises, challenges, trials and errors to provoke and strengthen their ability to survive, overcome and grow. Senator John McCain did just that. Enduring incredible physical, emotional and spiritual pain and despair - he survived. And as with the message of Metahab, he not only survived but he thrived. Not in spite of his trauma but as a direct result of it.

The word 'hero' is used so nonchalantly today.  There is a difference between a heroic act and a hero. Senator McCain is a HERO and his story is an example for us all with identifiable poignant aspects and valuable lessons. He was brave but also flawed. As he said, "I have been tested on a number of occasions. I haven't always done the right thing, and I think I understand given my family's history and given my experiences, the important thing is not to look back and think about all the things I should have done ...but to look back with gratitude." He learned from his errors and used his imperfections and admitted mistakes to grow and improve. He experienced life's beauty and brutality and recognizing that, his is a story about

possibilities. Identifying possibilities means you have a chance, an opportunity for a future. He modeled the way for that future providing a mindset that revealed hope is the correct response to suffering, even though there is terrible and tremendous loss. He was determined, and over time found a way out of the depths of his fear and misery using his Vietnam experience for growth and insight. He focused less on what cruel circumstances took from him and recognized what they gave. He accepted, moved on and found ways to give back to his family and the country he loved. His favorite book was; For Whom The Bell Tolls. He was 12 years old when he first read it and it became his corner stone and guiding principle throughout his life, "nothing is better than the story of someone who sacrifices for causes greater than themselves".

Finally, the bell tolls - death comes for us all and thus our focus must be on how we choose to live. "I think all of us think about death, but I think more about life." He lived life to its fullest, recognizing hope in the midst of despair, embracing the goodness of others, forgiving the flaws, accepting and handling mistakes honorably, moving forward and always finding ways to serve.

Thank you for your service Senator John McCain, 

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How am I going to come back from this?


These were the first words I heard from Michael. His daughter, Dr. Jennifer Gonzales Shushereba, seven months pregnant with her first child, was murdered on Friday, March 9, 2018 while serving veterans at the Yountville VA. It was and still is...awful. My work, my professional focus involves trauma informed care, specializing in posttraumatic growth. But this is a tough one. How is there going to be anything worthy coming from this? I have known Jennifer for her entire 32 years of life. When she became Dr. Gonzales, graduating from Stanford, specializing in counseling soldiers suffering from PTSD, we worked together. She is Metahab's clinical consultant. Together we provided training at various agencies and with clinicians on how to incorporate the use of Metahabilitation into their recovery and rehabilitation programs. I attended Jenn and T.J.'s wedding one year ago and was with her just 3 weeks before her tragic end - at a lovely family function. She was her beautiful self, looking very pregnant and very happy.


We lost a wonderful person, a dedicated professional, wife to T.J. Shushereba, and mother of their lovely daughter, Cecelia Rose, whom she took with her to heaven. There are no words of real comfort but the hundreds of people who surrounded her and T.J.s family - holding them up, crying together, honoring Jenn was a beginning. As I told Jennifer's parents, I am in this for the long haul. Now, but more importantly, in 3 months, 6 months, and on.


"How I am going to come back from this?" I simply hugged Michael and said, "one breath at time and by leaning on your friends. Use the love and support from the rest of us." That's all there is for now. This is the grieving time. The disbelief time. The, 'what just happened to my/our life' time. There are no good answers. Only love - holding one up when they cannot do it themselves. Even at the end, Jennifer did that for us. This is the final message on her funeral Mass Card. She loved Winnie the Pooh and especially this message; You are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem and smarter than you think. If there ever comes a day when we can't be together, keep me in your heart, I'll stay there forever.


Thank you Dr. Jennifer Gonzales Shushereba. Metahab, your family and friends will never forget you. Your dedication and contributions in assisting the wounded among us as well as your kind and loving spirit is both an inspiration and our motivation. We will follow your lead and spread your message of love, caring for one another and promoting personal strength.


God Bless you Jenn. We will now serve you by taking care of and supporting your family and helping them 'come back from this'.    


With love,

The Metahab Team

Dr. Joyce Mikal-Flynn

Elizabeth Brim

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How Can I Serve?

"Life's most persistent and urgent question is, what are you doing for others?" - 

Dr. Martin Luther King



I read this quote and immediately recognized it as the perfect concept to launch my monthly blogs. I was in a tough space when I read this. Things were not going well. I was doubting myself and overwhelmed with commitments that took my focus away from the work I love to do, the work that makes me happy - working with and doing things for survivors and their families. This distress prompted me to pause and think about what I needed to do to remedy the situation. I stepped back, took some time to read, listen to others and think - and then I remembered Drs. Ed Diener and Sonja Lyubomirsky research about happiness - how to measure, experience and generate this emotion. Dr. Lyubomirsky found that 50% of our happiness level is determined by our genes. We are born with a range of happiness called our genetic set point or set range. When really good things or really bad things happen to us we respond and then return to our set point. Our circumstances, things we are 'told' to focus on, what job we have, how much money we have, our social status, our health, only accounts for 10 % of our happiness. This leaves 40 % unexplained or unaccounted for. Thus, there is a great deal a person can intentionally do to affect their level of happiness. This is called intentional activity. Dr. Diener followed individuals and looked at their moods over time, all over the world, to understand what really matters and how happiness works. It appears there is a bit of a formula to experiencing happiness. One major activity, one part of the formula is: purpose - resolving to do something for others.


For a long time psychologists studied depression and psychological illness with the goal of eliminating and ridding people of these problems. More recently, there has been a different research focus - studying health, wellbeing and happiness. Concentrating on what makes us well, what brings forth healing and how to acquire a peace of mind that supports happiness. What are the building blocks that led to a life not just free of illness but one that flourishes with deep and genuine happiness? I studied this in the context trauma. Instead of intently focusing on the pathology of trauma and the significant problems that occur in the aftermath, my research, along with others, found that one can and does experience amazing growth post trauma. These events bring forth profound opportunities to evolve; spiritually, emotionally and physically. The research supporting Metahab involved listening to survivors who, over time, grew and found true happiness in the aftermath of traumatic events - recognizing why but more importantly how this growth was accomplished. The building blocks to Metahab involve intentional activities, mindsets and behaviors specifically directed toward moving forward. A key intention and behavior involves purpose. Survivors, after time, recognized purpose - ways to be of service. This behavior brought forth a remedy to their distress, grief and depression, guiding them toward happiness and posttraumatic growth.


Martin Luther King's statement motivates me to keep pushing. To keep the faith regarding my purpose and service. My valued friend, Dr. Bridget Parsh reminded me of this several years ago. Lacking confidence and filled with fear about writing my first book, she quietly but forcefully reminded me, "it's not about you...you found out something people need to know. You owe it to them to share this information." I frequently remind myself of those powerful words and message. Surviving my own traumatic event, experiencing all the angst, fear and frustration associated with recovery - I get it. I can't forget or discount the valuable lessons learned. I recognize the mindset inspired by Victor Frankl - a growth mindset that challenges you to find some meaning in your suffering. Once you recognize this meaning and look toward a hopeful future, you recognize what you can do instead of what you cannot - and you will be in a perfect place to do something for others. You will find your purpose. A way to do something of others. There are unlimited opportunities. Between natural and human disasters, some well-known, some known only to you and your family or communities, there is plenty to do. Call someone, ask how they are doing. Send a card. Take them a meal. Invite them out for a movie, coffee or a walk. Participate in an event to support a cause important to you. Keep it simple. These acts of intention, of kindness show others - they matter. Don't worry about knowing the right thing to say or having answers for their troubles. Just listen, have a laugh, give a hug. It goes a long way.


Sharing the message and system of metahab is my mission, my answer to 'what am I doing for others' and 'what makes me happy'. Let's keep this practice going. Let's do it together. Send me a message. Let me know what intentional choices you are making to be happy, to be of service. I would love to share what you are doing for others and your pathway to happiness.


With Gratitude,


What good shall I do today?

While driving from Sonoma to Santa Rosa recently I faced the cruel aftermath of the fires. It was overwhelming to witness firsthand the destruction. Isolated chimneys, metal staircases and foundations were surrounded by only ashes and burnt remnants of what was. Right next to these devastating scenes were homes completely untouched by the fires. Why were some homes in complete ruins while others, only yards away, left standing virtually untouched. Why? The ultimate question.


I asked this question many times after my brush with death. Why? Why me?  Why are some people hit so hard - so traumatized, while others not? Why did some loose it all while others, with homes almost right next to them, didn't? In Las Vegas, why were some people hit with bullets and other not? When answering the call to service, why do some of our brave military men and women come home and others do not? Why? Why them?


These are natural, even necessary questions but ones with no really good answers, at least not at the beginning of the trauma journey. A good friend and spiritual advisor told me: 'you might not actually understand that for many years'. What then becomes necessary and important is to find a glimmer of hope, accept what is and choose to live a worthy, grateful, purposeful life - daily. You don't need to start a business or write a book, just take time and remind yourself of what you have. Focus on gratitude and daily miracles and live a life that praises your survival and the gifts that have and will continue to come forth. There is a simplicity, a simple beauty to living life in this manner. Being simple does not mean it is not worthy. It means you got to the essence, the core of the message and experience. So make it your purpose to just be there for others affected by the recent fires or other traumas. Survivors don't need advice or an opinion, they need your presence. Extend a useful hand, a hug and hope for a brighter future. It goes a long way toward helping and healing.


For 2018, instead of asking 'why', or 'why me' let's ask instead, 'what good shall I do this day'?.Let the focus of our lives bringing kindness, gratitude and love into our relationships and lives, not in spite of our suffering but directly because of it. It is through the most devastating times that we find our humanity, strength and purpose. Metahab has ours - it is to serve all who have faced and survived destruction, trauma and the hopelessness that can result. To help survivors heal, recognize a new life and grow: to survive, adapt and amaze. Please join us in this mission. If you know someone suffering, in despair or struggling, let them know about us. Make part of your purpose helping ours.


Merry Christmas and wishing all a life full of gratitude, love and purpose in 2018


Team Metahab



Thanksgiving and Miracles

There are only two ways to live your life: as though nothing is a miracle, or as though everything is a miracle.

-Albert Einstein


Miracles, they happen every day but at times we fail to pay attention to or recognize them. I am from Santa Rosa. I knew several people who lost their homes. This along with the killings in Sutherland, Texas and Las Vegas left me asking, why? Always the first question when facing horrible, extreme events. Why are we going thorough this? One can feel discouraged and angry-as if prayers are not answered, as if we are alone. Faiths and beliefs about what should be are significantly challenged. In the midst of this despair, we can miss a lot, like every day miracles. 


Recently, I invited my friend Teri to have lunch in Sonoma. She and her husband Mark lost their home in the Santa Rosa fires. Another friend of mine from Sacramento, Cheryl, joined us. We shared a meal and bottle of wine and just let Teri talk...about anything she wanted to. Cheryl didn't know Teri before we met for lunch, but without saying a word, Cheryl paid the entire bill. When Teri realized this, she was moved to tears and said, "it is overwhelming to see and experience the amazing kindness from others, many of whom I don't even know or never met before".


Miracles are goodness. They are kindnesses, sometimes from people just passing through our lives, other times imparted by dear friends who are there for us. The film: Miracles from Heaven, tells us they are Gods way of letting us know "He is here.You are not alone".  So...be a part of a miracle. During this season of gratitude, let someone know - "you are not alone". Perhaps out of your own pain, confusion and struggle, you can feel better by lifting the spirt of someone else. As you bring forth the miracle you let others know, 'you are not alone'. In this process and sharing you feel happy - you experience your own miracle. Let's choose this path. The one that brings us from, Survival to Adaptation to Amazing.


Happy Thanksgiving from Team Metahab



The Northern California Fires

his trauma is so far reaching. So much was destroyed. Growing up in Santa Rosa - I know how close this community is. If your home or business was not destroyed, you knew someone who suffered a loss. How do you start to get things back on track? How do you begin to move forward? Sometimes it is doing little things- something simple. I met a friend for lunch. She and her husband lost everything. I wanted her to get away and talk. I simply listened. She took me through that night and cried, not because of the losses, she said, but because, "it is hard to take in all the kindness and support that has been given".


Ursuline High School, now St. Rose, and Cardinal Newman High School were severely damaged. All six children in my family attended these schools. I heard that St. Vincent De Paul High School in Petaluma scheduled a Mass to pray for and spaghetti feed to raise money for these schools on Saturday, October 21st. Several family members and friends attended. It was heartwarming to see how St. Vincent's principle, parents and student body extended a huge helping hand. We overlooked the rivalries and instead, looked at commonalities and directly provided assistance. 


Finally, I had a chance to speak with Dr. Patrick Wuthrich, an emergency room physician at Kaiser Santa Rosa. He shared stories about that night and the following days. This was a special story. As they evacuated patients to the Santa Rosa VA, he was approached by 4 men who simply said, "what do you need doc? We are here to help". He sent them to the person in charge and witnessed how immediately, they moved beds, mopped floors, emptied waste cans...answering any request. He asked them, "are you medics?" They simply said, "No Sir. We are Marines, what else do you need?" Dr. Wuthrich also praised the American Red Cross. He was completely impressed and inspired by their work, their system and how they brought organization to chaos. They provided guidance and amazing assistance.


So, if you would like to help, start by doing something simple. Call a family member or friend, invite them out, let them talk and start to process the events and losses. Do not worry about fixing anything, just listen. Host a small event to bring direct funding or specific supplies to schools that lost it all. Lastly, consider making a financial donation to the American Red Cross by clicking here. I now know, first hand, the value of their contributions.


"The Red Cross brought an immediate presence of organization and structure to an inherently chaotic and traumatic situation." 

- Dr. Patrick Wuthrich DO, Kaiser Permanente Santa Rosa and Santa Rosa resident


Metahab is here to help. 

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For everything there is a season, and a time for every purpose under heaven: a time to be born, and a time to die. Ecclesiastes 3:1-8

This summer was a wonderful reminder of seasons and purpose. I attended the birth of my fifth grandchild, celebrated my husband's 65th birthday and 2 grandsons birthdays. I also had the privilege of participating in the American Cancer Society Relay for Life in Santa Rosa to honor my niece, Paula Marie. My brother Jude, his wife Paula and my husband Terry and I walked around the track, looking at all the lovely luminaries, each one holding a story of courage and brave battles. As I walked, heard the speeches and looked at the video full of pictures honoring survivors as well as those who passed - I realized how remarkably strong these people are. Paula Marie and her family endured years of treatments, good news, bad news, and all the emotional ups and downs associated with this journey. We tend to honor athletes for their strength. But I realized - Paula Marie was really the strong one. Born with cerebral palsy and mild cognitive delays, she was diagnosed with bone cancer at age 13 necessitating a below the knee amputation. She and her family dealt with a reoccurrence at age 15 requiring partial removal of her left lung. She came through all that. I never saw her without a charming smile and a "Hi Aunt Joycie". She loved parties, went to school, participated in the Special Olympics, and had a boyfriend. At the tender age of 35, she was diagnosed with breast cancer. It was too much. After one more long and courageous fight, Paula Marie left us - in the loving arms of her mother, there when she came into the world and there to send her to heaven.

Thank you Jude, Paula, your family and especially Paula Marie for reminding us how to live, love and be in the moment.


Let's remember who the strong ones are and learn from them. Revealing unbelievable courage, they faced cancer diagnoses along with months, sometimes years of brutal therapy and unknown outcomes. 'There is a time for every purpose'. Take time for each purpose. Unplug. Don't hold grudges. Connect with others and focus on your life's purpose.

To support our ongoing purpose and to honor these heroes, Metahab has joined with Talos Health Solution and Esperity, A Worldwide Portal for Cancer Patient Information, in creating the first American Cancer E-Conference. This unique virtual conference, concentrating on posttraumatic growth, will be available in November to patients, families, caregivers and clinicians. 


If you would like to support this event and find out more about it - go to www.americancancereconference.com and contact  


Choose to Love.

This is a tough time for all….but also a time to learn and grow. I have some ideas about dealing with these troubling and traumatic current events. These actions helped me:

·         First, get bummed. That’s right…these events are tough, depressing and wearisome. Take some time to cry, get mad and just lose it – but time it; build in an ending.

·         Next, monitor your engagement with news coverage. Keep up with current events but limit the time of exposure. Take 30 minutes twice a day to read, watch or connect with this information.

·         Finally, take control of what you can…your own behavior. Do just one thing. Write a letter, choose an action that is useful and positive, find an organization to support.

In the midst of distressing, troublesome, even tragic events, people can become less compassionate, less loving. Don’t fall into that despair and negativity.

Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that. Martin Luther King, Jr.

 Choose to love. Dr. Joyce Mikal-Flynn

A reminder of my survival and going after My Crazy Dream.

This is the anniversary of my brush with death. On July 20, 1990, 27 years ago, the life I knew changed – forever. I had no idea how things would turn out or what this experience would bring forth. Initially, my life seemed hopeless and without purpose. I spent much of my time depressed, angry and afraid. Unwilling to give up - I eventually made the choice to live. With time I accepted aspects of my new life and adapted. I reached out and took advice from professionals and friends who supported my recovery. I tried new things and got some traction. I refocused and became grateful for what I could do. The anger, despair and frustration slowly subsided. Then I had this crazy dream. I could help other survivors to maneuver around their own trauma and crisis and eventually grow, not in spite of what happened but as a direct result of their event. Metahabilitation was born. I now live for and with a purpose. Part of that purpose is my family. I am blessed with a wonderful husband, children, sons in law, grandchildren, colleagues and friends. My crazy dream has taken hold and I am more dedicated and driven than ever. I have seen Metahab work, providing a pathway for survivors and their families toward growth. It is becoming more and more the standard of care and less of an afterthought. So with deep gratitude for my survival and the opportunity to remind survivors of their courage, capacity and ability to move forward, I want to thank the Metahab community for supporting my crazy dream.

Now, find your purpose and go after your own crazy dream. Have fun, enjoy and grow.


What I learned from Lewis, 4 women and a walk on a Desert Tightrope

Always wanting to test myself, I recently participated in an incredible challenge called the Desert Tightrope. Traversing a cable 35 ft. in the air using only a series of hanging ropes to help maintain my balance looked excitingand fun. It ended up being all that and more. 

The dry desert of Tucson was where I, along with Diane, Makenzie, Terry, Sarah and Lewis, our insightful leader, embarked on this journey together. Lewis exuded incredible energy and determination. He made it clear - we were all going to do well and we were all going to learn something, mostly about ourselves. He was right. As my four new friends and I stood under the 35 foot tightrope, we looked up, squinting to block the bright desert sun, and decided the order in which we would climb. I was going second. Harnesses were placed. Instructions given. “Rely on your legs not your arms when you climb up the pole” Lewis recommended, “they are stronger!” With these directives and encouragement from my friends on the ground, I managed to summit the 35 foot pole ready to step onto the tightrope. I stood there – frozen, “You got this” were the reassuring words from my new and supportive friends. “Take your time. Look around-check out the view!” yelled Lewis. But I wasn’t interested in the view. My legs were shaking ferociously as I grabbed onto the first rope and pulled myself onto the tightrope. I held onto the rope for life, unaware of how tightly I was gripping it. “Great work” were the supportive words from down below. “Grab the next rope” they encouraged. After grabbing the next hanging rope with my right hand, I was too anxious, too afraid to let go of the one in my left hand. “Joyce, what is that rope in your left hand doing for you?” Lewis asked. “Let go of it so you can move on”. Wise words. I made it to 5 of the 7 hanging ropes before I fell and Lewis brought me down slowly to the ground. Surrounded by my team, I cried. I was shaking. I could not believe how scared I was but also how happy I was at pushing through my incredible fear and initial lack of confidence. I didn’t get to the end of the tightrope but I went further than I expected. 

I gleaned many lessons from this challenge but let me focus on the top three. First, letting go of the rope in my left hand signified letting go of the past in order to move on. It didn’t help to hold onto both ropes. It didn’t provide stability and it hindered my progress. Second, once I got to the ground, I noticed my hands really hurt. “Because you were gripping too tightly. Holding onto something too tightly doesn’t work. You need to relax and let the rope work for you” Lewis kindly reminded me. Holding on so tightly didn’t help my balance - it caused pain. Finally, it was with great surprise and appreciation that 6 individuals, coming together only 30 minutes prior to walking the Dessert Tightrope, became sincere allies and supporters. We wanted the best for each other - to feel good about what we accomplished and to acquire amazing life lessons: Let go of the past. It doesn’t provide stability, it stops you from moving forward. Holding onto to things in life too tightly causes pain and doesn’t get you want you want. Relax your grip. Take a deep breath and move forward.  Finally, depend on others. They provide strength and support during challenges and struggles. You’ll go further and it is fun to accomplish things together. 

Excellent life lessons and growth are brought forth by challenges and embracing new opportunities. This brings me to my next exciting growth opportunity. Metahab.com is partnering with LFM Consulting, a company that provides unique and meaningful physical challenges and adventures to inspire and promote the principles and practices of metahab: finding meaning in our personal and professional lives, in our struggles and suffering, and encouraging resilience and growth after challenging life events and traumas. I am honored to collaborate with attorney Dana Furbry and Lieutenant Colonel Aaron Leonard (US Army) on this important and life affirming work. Now, sometime during this month challenge yourself. Walk further. Run. Go on a hike or bike ride. Take a time off work. Read that book you sitting on your desk. Take on a challenge at work. Push yourself. See how you can grow.  

Team Metahab.


Metahab & Mother's Day

Mothers have been our healers from the beginning. Dealing with the minor traumas - skinned knees, cuts and bruises to the more significant crises and struggles as we grew. They understood the concept of Metahab all along. They helped us heal and grow from these events. Because they give so much, Mothers sometimes forget to take care of themselves. To attend to their needs. Metahab promotes health and wellness for all - Moms too! So if you are looking for a thoughtful gift for yourself, a friend, colleague or your mother, join us in Sonoma on June 10th for the Women, Wellness and Resilience Day. Take time out of your life, or gift it someone else. Replenish, find your balance and have fun.

The Metahab family wishes all Mothers a Happy and Blessed Day on May 14th.


April is Alcohol Awareness Month


"Metahab is a good fit with the Salvation Army Program - A process of teaching people how to overcome what seems to be insurmountable. The men who participate in Metahab workshops tap into a process that helps them excel in the rest of the program. We are grateful Metahab and Dr. Mikal-Flynn for partnering with us." - Larry Dayton: CADCII; Program Coordinator, SA ARC.

"This curriculum has been very helpful to the men at the Salvation Army Adult Rehabilitation Center. They are given the opportunity to view their history through the lens of metahabilitation rather than as wasted time."- Barbara Field, MA, CATC, M-RAS, CSC: Clinical Coordinator, SA ARC.


"Drinking is what you did, it doesn't define who you are....." a line from a movie I recently watched that dealt an individual entering into a life of sobriety.  The month of April focuses on addiction and dependency, fitting perfectly with Metahab and its message of resilience, strength and growth - using those terms to define the person dealing with addiction and dependence.

Tragedies, challenges and struggles happen. Some are worse than others. These situations can bring about despair, seeing only the negative - what is wrong. These events might even prompt use of drugs and alcohol to help cope and forget. However, research reveals that crises and trauma, like addiction and dependence, can also be viewed as an occasion for personal growth and development. They don't look like that at first but when one boldly chooses a different path, opportunities open up.

You see nothing but damaged goods but I see something good in the making. When you see wounded I see mended. (Matthew West, Mended)

What turns things around? What prompts the mending? It is different for each person and different times bring forth different motivations but one thing that helped me was redirecting my thinking. Focusing on what could make me better and going after it. With addiction and dependence one tends to spend time in the past. I want you to focus on your future. I am not undermining the pain and struggles endured, but survival should remind you of your strength and resilience. Recovery allows you to look at possibilities for your future. Instead of seeing pain, seek purpose. Try new things. Don't do this alone. Ask for and accept help. Look this issue squarely in the eye and focus on what has been given instead of what has been lost. Metahabilitate. Go above and beyond restoration. Don't stop at mended. Keep going for growth - see the miracle. You are not finished yet. Keep finding out who you are. Realize who you can be. Instead of feeling broken beyond repair, you can experience healing beyond belief. (MW)

 The month of April focuses on alcohol awareness, addiction and dependence. I want to profile and thank the Salvation Army Adult Rehabilitation Center (SA-ARC). Barbara Fields, MFT, Addiction Counselor and Program Counselor at SA, heard me speak the Sacramento Chapter of the Women's Association for Addiction Treatment. She learned more about my work and brought Metahab to the Salvation Army ARC. For over 3 years, with the amazing supportive Larry Dayton, Salvation Army Program Coordinator, quarterly Metahab Workshops have been integrated into their treatment program. I have been given the pleasure and honor of working with these men and noted, firsthand, the damage brought forth by their addiction for themselves and their families. But I also witness, when they embrace hope, recognize purpose and identify internal strengths brought forth by survival of personal crisis and trauma, they create a new path. This new path and mindset brings forth a healthy person able to fully and substantially participate in society, with family and friends, as a dependable and loving individual. 

Thank you, Larry and Barbara, for your support and opportunity to work together.