Fear; he is a liar
He will take your breath; stop you in your steps.
He will rob your rest and steal your happiness….
Cast your fear in the fire…cause fear, he is liar.
Fear is complicated. There is healthy fear - I define that as caution. Life experiences bring forth this caution allowing us to be attentive, recognize danger, learn from past mistakes and use this information to bring forth wisdom and thoughtful responses to future problems and challenges.
Fear comes from an older part of the brain. It is important because it warns us of potential vulnerabilities, providing a momentary halt, allowing us to be watchful and considerate regarding life hazards. It is not meant to completely stop us. Fear or cautiousness is meant to advise, inform and make sure we decide correctly as we interpret life’s events. However, sometimes we give it too much power. We live in and with it allowing it take over and poison our thoughts, decisions and behaviors. As the song suggests, it stops you in your steps…and steals your happiness. It halts belief in yourself, limiting recognition of your abilities and capacity for profound growth and development brought forth by critical events, challenges and mistakes. At times, we let it fear define us. We sit in lonely, dark rooms developing negatives, creating excuses not to risk or to move forward after bad stuff happens. It becomes a sickness of the mind when one consistently chooses to listen to it tell them what they are not, repeatedly reminding them of what they can’t do.
Everyone falls short. Everyone makes mistakes, suffers through challenges and endures disappointments. These life experiences change who we are - no doubt about it. Time is needed to heal and learn from these events. Then comes the choice. Do we hold onto the fear and the negative or do we bravely pull ourselves out of these troubling situations and find something worthwhile? Try moving forward. Turn away from fear add chose to believe in yourself. You are way stronger than you think. Be afraid if you face situations unprepared or fail to learn from mistakes, constantly doing foolish things. Be afraid if you underestimate your abilities. But if you spent time figuring things out, if you recognize past mistakes and shortcomings and learn from them, if you embrace the smallest glimmer of hope in the midst of life’s horror - you can move forward gaining traction by using your strengths not your fears.
Finally, when we face life challenges or dare to test ourselves - we risk. There are basically two types of risk; calculated and foolish risk. Spend some time assessing and appropriately planning for the risk, then go for it. It is precisely in trying new things, taking on new ideas, finding ways to grow and give back that we find happiness. Don’t let fear stand in the way of risk, healing and experiencing growth out of pain. Let these events help unfold your purpose and happiness. Crisis, danger and calculated risks provide opportunities to triumph, to become stronger. Don’t stop yourself from taking on life by being afraid, because, fear, he is a liar.